The Desexualisation of masculine male body

(The following piece is only an outline at present)

An important aspect of male oppression has been the desexualisation of the masculine male body.

This is to say that the society has deemed that:

- The male body, including the male sexual organ shall be devoid of intrinsic sexual worth.

- The only sexual worth of a masculine male body will be its 'capacity' to penetrate, upon which will depend his social masculinity.

This aspect of man's oppression has the following important social repercussions:

Man not allowed to feel sexual violation

- That a man may not feel sexual shame or sense of violation or abuse over his body.

- In other words, a man 'cannot' be sexually violated, except when he is anally penetrated --- which is deemed as equivalent to robbing him of his masculinity.

- A man who expresses shame upon being naked or in other ways acknowledges or treats his body/ penis as having 'sexual' worth is deemed feminine.

- Men are thus powerless to complain when their body is exposed without their will. There is no concept of male sexual exploitation especially by females. Because females cannot penetrate men.

- To feel shy is not to be a 'man'.

- This takes away a man's space or right or power to defend his privacy, a fact which leaves him completely open to exploitation in a heterosexual society (where there are no male spaces to fall back upon, and women can make free use of their artificial socio-sexual power).

Man not allowed to see each other as sexual

- Thus a man feels angry and sees it as a threat to his masculinity when another masculine male expresses open sexual attraction towards him. Because he is treating his body as 'sexual' --- which is equivalent to 'feminising' (social femininity) him.

- Desiring a masculine male is deemed as the ultimate evidence of (social) femininity. Because, the masculine body does not have sexual value, including his penis, an interest in it is deemed to mean that the person wants to be penetrated by it --- which is the only worth it has.

- A man cannot like another's penis for it's own worth. He has to want it inside him, which is the 'proof' of his femininity, which of course debars him from the 'masculine man's group' (in the west 'straight').

- In other words, it is not manly for a man to treat his own body or that of another man as sexual. (here man means 'masculine gendered male').

- Men are trained to see their bodies as non-sexual. However, subconsciously the natural fact of the 'sexualness' of male bodies do play their role, and men have to learn to live with the dichotomy.

- Thus, through their conscious or outer behaviour, men treat their own bodies and those of other men as strictly non-sexual, but if there is a social space for it (where male spaces are still strong) men give silent subdued and suppressed expression to the natural sexualness of their bodies.

No space to celebrate masculine body

- This mechanism makes sure that the society doesn't celebrate the male body. The naked male body is deemed to be offensive, threatening, and vulgar.

- Thus we can safely say that the heterosexual society is a feminine (queer!) society that does not celebrate the masculine male body. On the other hand the masculine societies of the past (e.g. the ancient Greeks) were characterized by their celebration of the male body.

- In a heterosexual society, the only (sub) culture that celebrates the male body (without distinguishing between masculine and feminine) is the feminine (gay)s space, which does not know a thing about natural masculinity.

- That is the only reason men are required to cover their body. Although, the real reason is to hide the natural sexual power/ attractiveness/ intrinsic sexual worth of the male body, in order to keep men sexually broken from men.

The Extreme Over-Sexualisation of the female body

While the society has robbed the male body of its sexual value, thus disempowering the man, it has placed such extreme (although artificial) sexual value on the female body which gives extreme but invisible social power unjustifiably to women. This comes handy in reigning in the natural masculinity of men.

Under this mechanism the society deems:

- that the female body has universal, all-time, intrinsic sexual value which is highly prized.

- That the naturally masculine man must acknowledge and pay obeisance to this sexual value in order to be eligible for social masculinity.

The over-valuation of the female body has the following repercussions:

- The society either protects the female body (traditional society) or celebrates it (heterosexual society) or both, making sure through its mechanisms that men pay obeisance to it (whether or not they experience it!), lying and exaggerating in the process.

- The female body, because of its extreme deemed sexual value can be violated and must be protected. There is intense social anger when the female body is violated (or deemed to be violated).

- The female rape is considered a heinous crime by the 'public-voice-in-power', and calls for capital punishments for it is not unusual.

Comparison between the social treatment of male and female body:

- A man can 'technically' violate a female's body just by seeing or touching it, but the opposite cannot happen.

- While females are required to cover up their breasts, men are free to expose it (because their chests are worthless, sexually speaking).

- It is one reason why so-called 'homosexuality' (sic) is tolerated in women (women's bodies are after all sexual), but hated in men (it makes men feel feminine, something which is affirmed by their being transferred to the queer group from the straight one).

Comparison between traditional and heterosexual societies:

- In traditional societies, men's bodies are allowed some 'sexual' value, especially within the male spaces. And as such it is also acknowledged that even a man may respond to that sexual value. However, it is a complex situation and values differ (but overlap) in various social spaces.

- In heterosexual societies, the man's body is allowed to be sexual, but only when enough precautions are taken that, and it is made sure that it is to be treated and enjoyed as sexual (apart from their penetrative value) only by the females. A concession is sometimes made for the feminine male (gays), who it is acknowledged will find the male body sexual.

- It is ironical that in a heterosexualised society, even sports events have to include women in it in order to make it enjoyable for men.

- Of course these expectations and roles are unreal for most men, but are still imposed by the forces of heterosexualisation, especially the media: E.g. the hype about men hating to kiss each other!........and showing it as the 'straight' (masculine!) thing to do!....... thus creating an overall pressure on men to show how much they hate being kissed by another man!......However in the end it is all so artificial!

- The same is the case with the expectation from men that they will just not want to miss any chance to kiss a female. That the 'real' men are dying to kiss women anytime. Thus you will find the very, very stupid idea (and it works because of the pressures and conditioning that men face!) where women 'sell' kisses, e.g. as part of fund raising events.

The Natural fact about male and female body

- It is really ironical that the natural truth is that the male body has much more intrinsic sexual value than the female body --- especially for the male.

- The penis is a live and protruding sexual organ that reacts prominently to sexual stimulation and becomes even more conspicuous. Unlike vagina, which is a silent, inconspicuous, hidden, lifeless, dormant, and passive sexual organ. Female nudity cannot have the same impact as male nudity. It also means that forceful exposure is much more humiliating for men than it can ever be for women.

- The penis has a beauty of its own, irrespective of the overall, especially facial beauty of the male. People have preferences for particular kinds of penises. They come in both likeable and ugly shapes and sizes. On the other hand, vagina in itself lacks beauty. In fact it can be called a pretty ugly organ by itself.

- The male of any species is much more beautiful/ attractive than the female. Whether it's the lion, elephant, peacock or the antelope. The humans are no exception. However, a feminine society seeks to play down, even suppress male beauty and exaggerate feminine beauty. It seeks to make up for the natural deficit of women by making them wear make-up, jewelry, etc……..so much so that in 'civilized' human societies, make-up and artificial beautification has become synonymous with femininity.

- Most ancient warrior societies celebrated masculine male body, not the female. They highly cherished the male body, highlighted its intrinsic sexual value, and sought to protect them, especially from women. Thus keeping away from women, either totally or except for procreation, has been the mark of manhood in these naturally masculine societies. Women were barred from entering male spaces where the masculine beauty was openly exhibited and celebrated.

- This was as per the natural way of things, without unwarranted and artificial social mechanisms.

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